What to do when you are faced with a conflict with another person and you don’t really know how to act? We will discover some tips that will be of great help to you.
It is always much easier for us to give advice or guide a person close to us when he or she is going through a conflict or a delicate situation. However, we all know that it is much more difficult when we live and feel it from within.
Feelings, thoughts of guilt, fears, and many doubts come together. Staying low in love and trying to stay aware is one of the most difficult attitudes to reach. But it is true that with a lot of interior work we can achieve it. And, after all, life in addition to living it could also be considered as a continuous training of situations.
In a painful and delicate situation, what can we do?
People at certain times due to the pain that we can feel in the face of a duel, a couple breakdown, a bad personal moment, we tend to withdraw into ourselves, it is as if we opted for the option of being with our arms crossed and constantly squeezing. The best thing would be not to shut ourselves in and if we are lucky enough to rely on a close person, that simple fact will start to be very positive for us.
Trying to solve the problem on our own is the greatest act of love and courage that we can have in that moment. Being aware that there is something in us that is not working as it should is not easy but it ends up being the best way to start to get out of that anger zone. To begin to realize how we feel, how we think and what we can do to be a little better is to move forward even if it seems that not at first glance.
As we said before, if we can lean on a friend who has gone through something similar or who simply listens to us, it will help us to express how we feel, we will begin to lose weight little by little.
If you consider it necessary, find out about a good professional who can help you and teach you to cope with that moment. Going to a therapist is not a bad thing, quite the opposite. Sometimes, people do not have to have all the weapons to know how to carry a moment that we are going through.
Isn’t it true that when we want to cut our hair we go to the hairdresser? We can see it that way but always remembering to choose well the professional who will help us since all psychologists or therapists are not for everyone. Word of mouth is usually the best option.
When can we consider that something we are doing wrong?
When that problem is very intense, when it affects our family life, it may be deteriorating the relationship between family, friends or even work, when you have tried to solve it on your own but have not been successful.
We are not talking about normal reactions such as a day of discouragement, sadness, hopelessness, but about taking it seriously if we have been with this discomfort for a long time. Something may have happened a long time ago or a long time ago that you did not give much importance to and over time it begins to consume you.
The best thing is not to stay at home waiting for the rain to stop but to find an umbrella and move on.
Life offers us very beautiful moments in company and even alone, being able to live it with quality of life and tranquility is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves. And remember that asking for help is the most beautiful act of love you can do yourself.
