We all have the privilege of setting our course and being the captain of our own life, even if we make mistakes, it is also a possibility to learn and grow.
From the moment we are born we are accompanied by our parents and loved ones in general. As we get older, we meet more people in the form of friends and colleagues from school who help us to have fun and partly develop our social skills.
When we reach puberty, it is time to get to know our first love that allows us both to explore our sexuality and the deepest feelings that occur within a person. All this accompanied by more friends from both our social and professional fields.
Does this mean that we are always going to always be accompanied? Nothing is further from reality. Although we have always postulated ourselves as social beings by nature, when push comes to shove we will be alone “in the face of danger.” Hence, it is very important to be the most independent since ultimately we are the captains of that ship called “life.”
We are the masters of our own acts
We are very prone to being the most pessimistic every time we have any setback. However, many times we do not realize that we ourselves are the masters of our own actions. Therefore, it does not make much sense to blame third parties or simply our bad luck every time we have any problem,
We must be consistent with our actions. It is these and not the words that define and develop our personality. In the same way that a potter takes clay and shapes it over low heat with his own hands. No matter how long it takes. Sooner or later it will have the shape you want. Well, the same thing happens with our actions. It does not matter that we want to be one way and our actions say that we are something completely opposite. Sooner or later these will define us how we are and how we will act in the future.
We have the right to err
Having said that, we don’t mean to say that you have to be completely perfect. There will be things beyond our control. In this sense, sometimes we will not be able to do anything about it. And therefore we should not screw with it either. In fact, we also have every right to make mistakes and err quite a few times throughout our lives. It is part of our DNA, our idiosyncrasy and our way of being. Without error we would not be human.
Although you have to see the positive side of things. Many of these mishaps will also help us to know ourselves better as a person. And in fact they will be most useful to know what our strengths and weaknesses are. From there, we will know better how to act in any type of situation.
And we better do it alone. We can always go to third parties such as close family members or friends for their advice. But when push comes to shove, we will be the ones who find ourselves “alone in the face of all the dangers” that life puts on us day in and day out.
In short, despite the fact that there will be errors that depend solely on us, it is in our hands to try not to fall back on the same stone. We have to learn from them in order to come out much more reinforced.
Be happy thinking of both yourself and others
One of the ways to be happy is through a scale. In it we must put both our personal preferences and those of other people. It is very good to be an altruistic person and who always goes out of his way with others. However, this can lead to a lot of stress and frustration in the future. It is impossible to make everyone happy. Hence, sometimes you have to learn to say ‘NO’.
This is assertiveness. In the ability to express our opinions, feelings and emotions without having to damage that of others. In this way, we will realize that we are the owners of our life. The captains of that ship to which we can straighten its course with a simple turn of the rudder. Once we get it, we will surely see peace and quiet on the horizon.