The word “sorry” are always difficult to say, but do you know what are the benefits of saying sorry and why is it so important to apologize? We discover it for you.
The words “I’m sorry” are often very difficult to pronounce, as this implies an acknowledgment of a mistake. To err is wise, but asking for forgiveness is brave.
When we hurt a loved one and we see their suffering reflected as a consequence of our action, it is terrible for us to admit that we have created this reality. Our partner, friend or family member is having a bad drink and it has been us. Why do we hurt those who love us the most? What’s happening to us?
If we have these feelings after performing a “bad” action, then we feel it, and if this is our reality now, we should apologize. Researchers and psychologists have pointed out why it is necessary to apologize when a social norm has been violated.
Why is asking for forgiveness so important?
We will list 4 of them below:
- When you apologize you are admitting that what you did is not right and does not conform to the social rules. Therefore you are admitting that you accept these rules and that you are aware of them. This helps others to know that it was a mistake and that you do not identify with that bad action, which makes them feel more secure.
- You restore dignity to those affected. You reaffirm them that the consequences they are experiencing are not the result of their actions but of yours. This makes them feel better and helps them avoid blaming themselves for something they haven’t done.
- When you ask for forgiveness, you are re-establishing communication with the affected person and this ensures that a reconciliation can be reached.
- A sincere apology lets others see that you are not proud of that action and that you intend not to repeat it again. This will help those around you to get to know you better and not focus on the mistakes made but give you a new chance.
Benefits of sincerely apologizing
After a big mistake, a feeling of insecurity and guilt invades us. It is at that moment that the doubt appears: I apologize or “let the waters run and calm themselves.” It is obvious that there is no evil that lasts a hundred years, as the proverb has taught us well, but what can we obtain after apologizing?
The remorse and shame that we can feel after the “bad” actions can lead to a serious weakening of our health, both physical and mental. When we apologize, the feelings of guilt and self-reproach disappear, restoring our peace of mind through the recognition of our responsibility.
Through apologies you can show others that they are important to you and that you care about them. Knowing that someone cares about what you feel and who you are is very comforting, it lets you know that you are not alone and therefore gives you security.
Throughout your life there will be many people who will pass and others will stay. Interests change and many times friendships or couples have to separate, but they all leave a mark on you and you decide who you want to stay with. Don’t let a mistake separate you from someone you consider valuable. Apologizing can help you reestablish relationships.
Finally, one of the greatest benefits there is that of personal evolution. Recognizing what you do wrong and what you do not identify with will help you reaffirm your personality and define yourself as you want to become. Mistakes are part of personal maturation and accepting responsibility is a great vital learning.