Love is undoubtedly wonderful, but do you really know what it is, and what are the differences between a romantic love and a true one?
In a relationship, there are a series of psychological issues and issues that can help us discover some of its most important and interesting keys.
But, sometimes, the differences between romantic love and true love are not known, so that on many occasions both loves tend to be confused, thinking that they are the same.
What is love?
The love is undoubtedly the most enriching and feeling the same time the most difficult to define, you may feel a person. Here we will try to define it and present the different kinds of love.
We want to mention this curious feeling, since it is rarely talked about, because it is so difficult to express both with words and gestures.
Love is defined as the feeling of affinity between people and defined in different ways according to the many and diverse ideologies and points of view. This concept is regularly related to romantic love since it is the kind of love that is most manifested in songs, movies and in everyday life.
On the religious level, solid spiritual links are shown, so that the feeling spreads and is transformed into a mental state of the soul or of the conscience, recognized in many religions as God himself.
In the psychological field, love is conceived as the union of three main elements: intimacy, passion, decision or commitment.
In the biological field, love is related to the survival of the individual and the species. Many are those who think that it is exclusive to human beings and that love is a feeling that can manifest itself in other beings.
Gottfried Leibniz used to say: “to love is to find your own happiness in the happiness of another”
Psychological roots of romantic love
Romantic love is certainly a narcissistic feeling, since, among other issues, it has the particularity that it fulfills the function of filling gaps and covering certain emotional needs.
It is true that romantic love aspires to a fusion, but it is based on exclusivity, being conditioned to what we receive at each moment and each day from the other.
In this type of love, the other person, our partner, represents the symbol of something that we lack, of something absent, and it can become a problem when our partner stops looking like the image that we have created of her if we do not promote the emergence of a true love.
What true love means?
True love helps to dissolve scars, bringing to the surface what is hidden. It is capable of encouraging evolutions and changes, and helps the person to maintain a healthy and healthy self-esteem.
It helps to form a mature relationship, in which mutual respect and support is fostered, the existence of an individuality that does not mix with the partner itself.
When a person thinks about the possibility of having a new relationship, either because they have never had one, or because they broke up with their old partner some time ago, in some cases, they wonder if true love really exists.
It is true that there is a difference between two types of love that generally tend to occur in a relationship: romantic love is certainly a narcissistic feeling, which fulfills the function of filling gaps and covering emotional needs.
While true love, understood as such, is capable of eliminating scars, enlightening the subject and even helping him to be a better person.
True love is characterized because it is a sincere, natural love that accepts and loves the other person as they are, but which in turn allows to love you personally just as you are.
Respect the freedom and personal individuality of the other, while helping them achieve their dreams without expecting anything in return.
We feel comfortable in the company of the other person, and in fact we tend to be surprised when our love evolves and grows.
Although it is possible to discover and know true love, we must not forget something fundamental: the mistake in the couple is in placing responsibility on the other for everything that happens to us, and for everything that hurts us.
But true love cannot only be felt in the couple: we can also feel it for a friend, for our family, for our brothers or for our parents.