Personal crises can be a great option for learning and growing. We can always learn from them if we know how.
At the moment in which we live, everything happens very quickly. We are focused on having more and more. A better house, a better car, a better paid salary, the best clothes to wear… But, can we really live a full life without having gone through some personal crisis before? If they took all that away from us, would we still be happy?
As soon as we lose any of these things, probably many people also lose their own happiness and begin to enter into crisis. Crisis that on many occasions cannot be seen as positive. Moments and circumstances in which life tells you to stop, that there is something you are not doing right.
We are linking and linking moments without being fully aware of them. We end with a work contract and then we start with another out of fear, without really asking ourselves if we want that for the rest of our lives. Or we just can’t find another job and feel like we’re not worth enough.
In those moments when a person begins to go through a crisis, they usually feel lost, stunned, and full of fear. Sometimes we don’t know how to translate what life is telling us, even our own body speaks to us but we ignore it. However, the reality is that we should see it as a new stage that is beginning for us.
We have the option of rethinking where we would really like to go, if I am truly passionate about what I am doing, or if I am filling or covering my own shortcomings. We will probably go through a short period of sadness and depression, but little by little the large windows will begin to open and we will see the sun again.
Major crises then lead to better stages only if we manage to listen to each other. It may be time to get back that hobby that we didn’t even have time to do because we were so busy running around during the day and pleasing others by fulfilling certain responsibilities, instead of satisfying ourselves. It is time to take those morning walks on the beach barefoot, do a little sport, which in turn will help us to secrete endorphins and adrenaline. Those hormones that will help us little by little to feel better, fuller and happier.
Albert Einstein used to say that « Without crisis there are no merits. It is in the crisis where the better of each one emerges, because without crisis all wind is caress «. While Antoine de sent Expiry said that “Man is discovered when he measures himself against an obstacle “.
It is the moment not to worry, but to occupy yourself. Get up early, take care of your appearance, have a good breakfast. Even the best we can do is strengthen personal relationships such as family or even spend time with close friends. These will give us support and affection. It is not a bad thing to ask for it since surely we will always have been there when they have needed it. Expressing what we feel and think once a day is also a good way to keep order within ourselves.
Taking charge of your life will make you brave and valuable to yourself now is the time to take the direction you want to take, now you can choose because you know what you really want.
How can I learn from crises?
There is no doubt that when we are faced with a personal crisis, the best we can do is live it as an opportunity to learn , especially when it comes to mistakes after having made a wrong decision.
We must think, try to find where we have gone wrong. And it is that although sometimes it is easy to achieve it, in most cases it is never that simple. However, it is always possible to review what has happened, and above all, what we can do differently in the future so as not to fall into the same error again.
It is always best to understand a personal crisis as a temporary state of disorganization and disturbance. In other words, it is temporary, which means that it is not going to be a situation that extends over time, that it is indefinite at all. Rather, they are related to the inability we have in those moments to handle specific situations that occur at that moment.
For this reason, there is a very beautiful phrase that will help us in those moments: the baggage of life, which we fill up little by little over the years, is what helps us to face difficult situations. In other words, with each crisis we learn which defense and action mechanisms have helped us, and which have not.
Therefore, the important thing is not to be brave because we are not afraid, but to be brave by having the ability to continue forward despite fear.