We have all argued at one time, and most of the time we tend to do so by yelling without a clear objective. Discover how we can do it more intelligently, calmly and taking into account the opinion of the other.
The mere fact of having a heated argument with a friend, acquaintance or family member can cause all kinds of unnecessary conflicts and quarrels to ensue. It is very normal that each one wants to express his opinion and therefore wants to make the other party see that he is right through his arguments.
However, on many occasions there will come a point that it is practically impossible to agree and therefore there is no choice but to take this discussion as a form of learning and personal enrichment.
Although this is not an easy task. Gandhi himself already gave us a series of tips to lead a discussion in an intelligent way and without falling into personal disqualification. Would you like to know this method? Well, if so, you have no other option than to accompany us through the following lines:
Your arguments must always be solid
Ghandi did not achieve the independence of the Indian people peacefully by mere chance. This Indian thinker spent much of his maturity studying thousands of law books that dealt with the civil laws of South Africa. He then also continued his training at the University of London during the 1930s to better understand and understand the needs of his people.
And what was the real purpose of all this? Well, nothing more and nothing less than to get hold of all the data and information that he would need years later when carrying out a debate with any person who was against the independence of his country.
On all occasions, he wisely refuted the opinion of others, respecting their arguments as long as they were solid.
Always empathize with the opinion of others
There comes a time when a debate turns into a kind of ego fight. From the moment in which the discussion becomes a “battle” to see who is right, because it no longer makes sense. It goes without saying that Ghandi found himself in this situation on many occasions.
And what was this dear Hindu philosopher doing? For he used empathy as a “weapon” to win a multitude of heated debates among English politicians at that time.
This was possible because through this social skill, Ghandi was able to put himself in the shoes of others and thus tone down his arguments. It may seem silly, but simply saying: “If I understand you …”, “Well maybe you’re right but …” can greatly help the other person see a little better what you are trying to say.
Put it into practice every time you argue with your closest friend or family member. You cannot imagine the results it can give you in the long term. After this, you just have to invite the other party to have something to end the discussion in the most friendly and friendly way possible.
Simplicity above all
On many occasions the discussions do not come to fruition because the two parties simply do not understand their arguments. And the worst comes when we repeat them over and over again without any success, causing much more tension and disagreements to occur.
Have you ever been in a situation like this? Well, maybe you should rethink the way you relate your points of view. For this, Ghandi always used simplicity and simplicity when presenting his arguments.
Thanks to this, he got his message to reach the largest number of people in a much more effective way, many of them illiterate or without having attended any type of training in primary school. In short, simplicity is synonymous with success when conducting any debate.
It will help your message to reach the other party much more summarized, something that can be translated later is that you are a little right (but only a little).