A breakup is a painful, difficult and complicated time. But what to do when you know that you must let go of that person you love and love so much?
The falling out of love is a process that can take weeks, months or even years. With the passage of time, it is increasingly common for that person we love and respect so much to lose interest in us. There is no need to make a drama out of this. It is not necessary to look for the culprits in victims in this very painful situation.
Given this, it is best to “cut your losses” and realize that there is no point in continuing with an empty relationship lacking love and affection on both sides. And for this, many times we must pay attention to the signals that our partner leaves us throughout all that time.
Lies to you and betrays you
The lie is one of the first steps you can denote that something is wrong in the relationship. It is used to avoid compromising situations that the person in question wants to avoid. Especially with those that have to do with third parties who have met in the same period of the relationship.
If you discover it for yourself, it is up to you to decide what to do. But once you have been betrayed and lied to in a premeditated way, trust will be on the ground and that will lead to the relationship going under sooner rather than later.
Blames you for the situation
There are many people who, far from taking responsibility and cutting their losses, prefer to blame the other party (you) for the situation. ”What if you no longer treat me the same”, “The relationship has become monotonous”, “You don’t give me what I want …”
This can turn into typical dropout excuses. Sometimes you have no choice but to criticize yourself, but a relationship is always something between two people. And therefore, victimhood should not be abused when cutting off any relationship.
Restrict your personality
Any healthy relationship worth its salt should not restrict the personality of either party. Love is not about extolling the virtues of the other person. But also in accepting their defects and understanding that they will always be there throughout the entire relationship.
Nobody is perfect by nature and therefore it is not good for the other person to coerce you and try to mold you as they please. Otherwise, it will be a bad sign that he doesn’t really love you.
They make no effort to maintain the relationship
The truth is that this has become a very characteristic pattern before breaking up the relationship. The transferor in question (obviously) ceases to have an interest in us. He has not the slightest interest in making an effort so that everything continues to flow like the first day.
It is very normal that this initial “passion” is not the same. But any self-respecting couple relationship is a matter of two and therefore both parties must always row in the same direction.
You stop being the priority to be one more option
There are many levanters who, before cutting their losses, prefer to leave their partner as one “more option” until the flame is rekindled or they find “someone better”.
This is what is known as the liana effect. And as its name suggests, it consists of finding a person who is more to your liking and therefore they do not leave you until they have a good grip on the new acquisition. As a summary, it can be said that you are like a treasure, unique and unmatched in the world. And therefore, it is not worth spending your energy on people who do not really appreciate you.
It separates you from your group of friends and family
This is another of the most common practices within droppers. As you have stopped being a priority, they stop making plans with you along with their closest family and friends.
Nor is it necessary to be together every day and see each other 24 hours a day because that is not healthy. But that does not mean that from time to time the two parties want to see each other and share moments and experiences together.